A good question to ask yourself is why do you write? Is your passion for the writing itself, or a desire to become famous? Do you write to fill a deep-rooted need to expunge the words trapped in your mind? Do you feel creative, or burdened to write? Is it for the enjoyment, or the torture? When you pinpoint the why’s of your writing, your goals become clearer and you will rid yourself of the pressures you feel.
For example, I didn’t start writing to become famous. (though I feel ecstatic when selling a book or receiving a good review!) I wouldn’t reject the idea of being a well-known author, of course, but it wasn’t my main focus when I began this journey years ago. Instead, my ‘goal’ was distraction. At twenty-six, I was diagnosed with congestive heart failure and dilated cardiomyopathy. I had a three-year-old and a newborn at the time, and was given five to seven years to live. Happy to report that it’s been eleven and I’m still kicking! Anyhow, I used writing as a way to circumvent my frustration; a way to occupy my time and force death from my thoughts. In doing so, I discovered that I truly loved the craft and here I am today, working on my third novel. My point is simply this; ridding myself of the expectations has helped me to write more freely and thus, churn out some of my better work.
If you’re a writer then you know the elation of creativity as it works its way onto the pages of your manuscript. You also know the torture and understand the frustration of writers-block. You try and try to get those words out perfectly, but nothing comes. That’s when I step away: focus my mind elsewhere until I have something worthwhile to say. Otherwise, I find myself having a love affair with the delete button, erasing all my hard work that might have possibly been good if I had just given it the chance to sit and mingle within the paragraph. Hastiness will get you no where except sitting at your computer, staring at a blinking cursor.
If you write for yourself, strictly unapologetic, you’ll be much happier and perhaps find that writing from the heart is the way to go. Don’t worry about the reviews. Forget the mainstream ideals of perfection. Let go of the worrisome idea that it has to be perfectly polished. That will come soon enough when you get to the editing stage and that’s a whole other ballgame! Prepare yourself for the agony and possibly a few tears!
Sounds like a good attitude toward writing. There are days when it’s work, there are days when it’s therapy. Then there are those days when it’s pure fun.
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Exactly! Thank you! 🙂
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I write because I have stories to tell and emotions to share.
I write because I can’t not write.
and on my planet, I am a world famous poet… 😉
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There ya go! Keep doing what you love!! 🙂 great attitude!!
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This post came at a good time. I just posted about how I’ve been making nothing but excuses about why I haven’t written much lately, and I realized I need to remember what brought me to writing in the first place!
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Glad it helped! A break is good every now and then, but distractions & self-doubt make it easy to forget what we loved about writing to begin with! Good luck with your writing- it will come!! Xo
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Kelly, I get so much out of every one of your posts. “Write for yourself” is such a great reminder. As a person who has spent my entire life joyfully reading books, I try to remind myself to view my own writing as a story I would like to read, but it’s so easy to get distracted by a hundred other filters.
I’m sad to hear about your serious health issue.
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Thank you for your kind words 🙂 they truly mean so much. In a world filled with amazing books, distractions come easy. My problem is comparing myself to other authors, but I quickly reign it in and realize I’m only me. You are only you. Write what YOU feel and like you said, a book you’d want to read. I truly believe the rest will fall into place. 🙂
-“If you don’t see the book on the shelf you want, write it.”- Beverly Cleary
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I loved your words! How does it feel to take a decision to publish a book?
Did you feel before that that you had nothing to say?
Have you always wanted to publish a book?
Did you feel like a writer?
I know I’m asking so many Qs but I’m just so thrilled to find someone who shares my thoughts about writing here!
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Aw, thank you! No, I had never planned on publishing. I wrote just to pass the time. A friend of mine read my first novel, Montana Sky, & said “Hey, you should publish this!” I had nothing to loose so I did. Surprisingly, for a first novel from a “nobody”, it did fairly well, selling a little over 500 copies. Granted it’s not an enormous amount, but I’m happy with the accomplishment. And yes, I do feel like a writer. So many think if you haven’t won accolades or haven’t made a best-sellers list then you are unworthy of such a title. My opinion? If you sit and write with an unrelenting fervor; a true passion that you can’t ignore, you are, by definition, a writer. Good luck in your endeavors and thank you for your response! I look forward to more connections and reading your blog! 🙂
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I just mentioned you in my newest post, Noor Elhayat! Hope that’s ok! 😉
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